tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19009705.post114226240712852913..comments2023-09-15T07:50:20.256-04:00Comments on Am I Thinking That?: Please Understand, Please Listen with your heart?Charleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13345880226202913405noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19009705.post-1142713742177696492006-03-18T15:29:00.000-05:002006-03-18T15:29:00.000-05:00She probably feels that you are judging her. Is p...She probably feels that you are judging her. Is part of the see/hear>tell yourself a story>feel>act cycle. She is tying her assumptions into what you are trying to say. <BR/><BR/>You might want to try "contrasting" with her to re-establish "safety" for her to talk about it. For example, "I am sorry if you think I am judging your lifestyle, that is the last thing I am trying to do. I just don't trust myself in an environment where I might be tempted."<BR/><BR/>Chris<BR/><A HREF="http://inanethoughtsandinsaneramblings.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">My Blog</A>Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14861482393432330011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19009705.post-1142361578068325462006-03-14T13:39:00.000-05:002006-03-14T13:39:00.000-05:00A FRIEND understands and does not make you FEEL as...A FRIEND understands and does not make you FEEL as you do. It is your choice and you should be respected for it. I dated a man who smoked pot and drank. His friends tried to get me to try it many times. The man I dated LITTERALLY told them to bug off and did not have them come over any more, due to respect that I was not into it. <BR/><BR/>That is how it should be.<BR/><BR/>*hugs*Chellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02670447056852537876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19009705.post-1142360745620744522006-03-14T13:25:00.000-05:002006-03-14T13:25:00.000-05:00A friend who encourages you to do these things is ...A friend who encourages you to do these things is no better than someone who shoots you. A friend who doesn't respect your need to be away from bad stuff doesn't understand you and is probably not worthy of you.<BR/><BR/>You're a good soul, Charles. Don't let the evils of the world snatch you.redsneakzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03601491021519995930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19009705.post-1142354711892848222006-03-14T11:45:00.000-05:002006-03-14T11:45:00.000-05:00Friends will not expect other friends to do someth...Friends will not expect other friends to do something he or she does not want to do. Don't go. If it cost you the frienship then I would wonder if it was ever really a friendship. If you stay with your convictions it may guide her to make the same decision. <BR/><BR/>Stay strong!Abadiebitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13131824336879869920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19009705.post-1142343359769340492006-03-14T08:35:00.000-05:002006-03-14T08:35:00.000-05:00I will never understand people who persist on tryi...I will never understand people who persist on trying to make someone else something they are not.<BR/><BR/>I true friend may ask if you want to joing him or her for a drink or a smoke, but once told no thanks I don't drink or smoke a real friend will not ask again. They won't try to change you. Either they will respect your choices and still want to be around you or they should find another friend.<BR/><BR/>I still smoke cigarettes. I am not proud of the fact I haven't been able to stop. But I never smoke in someone elses home or car without asking first. And if they say no, I respect it and if i still feel i have to have one I will go outside or away and return when done. I do this because I want to remain friends and not push them away.<BR/><BR/>but then i don't like anyone trying to push anything on me either. be it the way they see politics, or religion or their habits of grass or drinking.<BR/><BR/>it's not wrong to ask once.. but it is wrong not to respect your answer.DesLilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02582481597658080464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19009705.post-1142327400685464622006-03-14T04:10:00.000-05:002006-03-14T04:10:00.000-05:00*Listened with my heart*Yes, you deserve both frie...*Listened with my heart*<BR/><BR/>Yes, you <B>deserve</B> both friendship and love! As for being sociable, and perhaps making new friends, I took an Adult Ed class in cooking once and met a really cool girl who I still talk to this day.<BR/><BR/>So my lame advice is to take Adult Ed classes where you can meet new people. I've meet people through my church as well.<BR/><BR/>Stay strong, Charles. You're a great guy. :)<BR/><BR/>--KrisKrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13105961224973215250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19009705.post-1142298392193207382006-03-13T20:06:00.000-05:002006-03-13T20:06:00.000-05:00Encouraging you to be self-destructive does not so...Encouraging you to be self-destructive does not sound like the work of a friend. Particularly because she knows that you know what the outcome will probably be.tfghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07791116307693444845noreply@blogger.com